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My fondest memory as to how I got started in sex and relationship therapy was my discussion with a celebrity.

Why did you choose to go into sex therapy?” was a question that Fanny Kiefer, of Studio 4, once asked me on her live television show.

I believe my answer went something like this: “You know, Fanny, my mother’s still wondering the same thing.” After Ms. Kiefer composed herself from laughing, I continued: “Actually, before I opened up my practice, there were only a hand full of sex therapists in British Columbia, and none was of Eastern descent. After I began, most of my clients appreciated that I had a good command of both the Eastern and Western cultures, family dynamics, and therapeutic interventions.”

It was after this show that I became known to my colleagues as Dr. Faizal, the “multicultural sex and relationship therapist.”

I soon realized that there was a need for a counsellor who could help those of diverse cultures. To satisfy this need, I considered all the various avenues through which I could help my clients.

Today, I am board certified by the American College of Sexologists (Diplomate status), registered by the Canadian Professional Counsellors Association, member of the American Association of the Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists, and belong to the Canadian Sex Research Forum.

In addition to my private practice, I also write a monthly advice column (Dear Faizal, published in the Canadian Immigrant magazine), host a radio advice show (Love Across Cultures on Link, CBC Radio Canada International), am an instructor at Capilano University and Langara College, am a media-consultant (for print, radio and television) on multicultural relationship issues, am the National Communications Director of the Canadian Professional Counsellors Association, am an approved clinical supervisor, and am the author of Dating the Ethnic Man: Strategies for Success.

In private practice since 1997, I have counselled many individuals and couples that have shared with me stories about their challenges in initiating and maintaining a romantic relationship with someone from a different culture or of a different race. I’ve heard comments like:

My Black boyfriend is dating me, but keeps on putting down everything about my race. He says that he’s denying is heritage. What’s that about?” (a Caucasian woman)

I’ve got a thing for oriental women. My friends think I’m weird. Is it okay to be attracted to a specific race?” (a Caucasian man)

“Though my Persian boyfriend says he loves me, he refuses to introduce me to his family. He is not gay, and he assures me that he is not married. I don’t understand what the problem is” (Caucasian woman)

“My girlfriend’s parents didn’t understand that in Canadian culture, having sex with a woman didn’t mean that you had to marry her” (girlfriend’s family from Japan)

“In my culture, even dating is frowned upon, but I’ve met this amazing Caucasian man that I want to go out with. I need support if I’m going to do this” (family from Pakistan)

Concerns like these are common in the international dating scene, where inter-racial dating thrives.

Cross-cultural romances are now common. But they bring new challenges.

In our multicultural society many people are attracted to those of different backgrounds. Their accent, exotic appearance, or unfamiliar relationship style are often irresistible. But the very things that attract can also create problems. Multicultural romance often ends in heartbreak.

In our sessions, my clients get a heads-up in relating to those outside their culture. They learn how to do a multicultural reality check, and identify the key indicators that spell future trouble. The goal of therapy is for singles and couples to make their relationship with their partner the best that it can be.

Though cross-cultural relationships is one of my specialties, I am trained in and offer counselling for a wide variety of issues to individuals and couples of all sexualities, cultures, races, religions, and backgrounds.

 My clients and their issues include:
Couples:

• Communication issues

• Conflict resolution

• Premarital issues

• Cross-cultural dating

• Love and intimacy issues

• Arranged marriage

• Extramarital affairs

• Sexual desire discrepancies

• Sexual inexperience/anxiety

• Separation/divorce coping

• Abuse survivor issues

• Emotional and psychological abuse

• Molestation recovery and healing

• Rape recovery

• Anger management

 Men:

• Erection challenges

• Premature ejaculation

• Delayed ejaculation

• Sexual addiction

Women:

• Orgasmic challenges

• Lack of sexual desire

• Pain – Discomfort during intercourse

My Approach:

My approach is an eclectic one, which may, depending on the unique needs and preferences of each client, incorporate, psychodynamic, existential – humanistic, Rogerian, and/or cognitive-behavioral counseling. Gestalt, guided imagery and relaxation techniques may also be utilized.

I am a counsellor who:

• Creates a safe, private setting

• Is sincere, warm, and empathic

• Accurately understands the client

• Supports the client

• Is sensitive to client’s needs

• Offers effective therapeutic interventions

The Three-Stage Model:

I have found that clients can be most helped by a 3-stage model of counseling:

Feelings:

I identify, engage, support and validate the painful feelings associated with painful experiences.

Insight:

I assist clients in gaining insight into defenses, unhealthy patterns of thought, beliefs, behaviors, and ways of relation to self and others that result from this pain.

Actions:

I encourage clients, through various interventions, to adopt new behaviors and attitudes and ways of relating to self and others.

Together, these three steps induce a change in the client, which leads to his/her psychic, emotional, familial, and sexual well-being.

Now, if reading this bio, and viewing my website, has piqued your interest, you are more than welcome to give me a call. We can discuss your particular concern, keeping in mind that our conversation will be strictly confidential.

Whatever your decision, I wish you a lifetime of growth and prosperity.